Another "August Baby"- a Leo called me last night distraught. Our birthdays both fast approaching and she was blue.
"I don't like getting old, I didn't accomplish what I wanted. This is just not where I thought I'd be at this age."
Such a common soundtrack for anyone as the train to our next trip around the sun starts to chug into that birthday station.
I love this girlfriend. She's beautiful, kind, talented, funny and like most Leo's, she moves about the world like a confident Lioness. But then...there are those blue days... Those days that send her into her dark Lair to take stalk of all that she "isn't".
"Bah Humbug" I say to the the "birthday beat ups". The committee in your head is busy making up stories about you that you ought not trust! The committee is fabricating based on ancient forgotten belief systems. You need to shut that committee down!
It's true! I have regrets!
I regret biology never made me a Mom. Yet, I am a Mother to many.
I regret my body size and shape never matched the speed and fit way I've lived my life.
I regret wasting time. Wasting relationships...wasting opportunity...
But this is not my "Birthday Bash". My time to beat myself up...
Instead I'm taking a page from my friend Dan's birthday book.
He takes his birthday off every year no matter what. (Trial attorney)
He spends most of his day alone.
He writes down 10 Accomplishments for the next year and highlights where he could do better in his daily living next year.
It's his "business plan of life" day. His "off the gerbil wheel" and sit with himself day.
And, because he's had his heart and lungs, knees and hips redone a couple of times...
He always throws in some Gratitudes around "being allowed to be here still".
So here is my birthday challenge to all my magically energized, beautifully enthusiastic, arrogantly confident fellow LEO's...
Ten. Just 10 things you'd like to accomplish during this next year...
1. Take the time to read at least 2 "fun" novels
2. Make a plan to schedule and afford a "spa" day at least once a quarter.
3. Put 1000 miles on my bike.
4. Get on stage. in a production 4 X next year.
5. Redecorate my house.
6. Take more art classes
7. Spend more alone time with my hubby
8. Bring long weekends back into my life (this is sacrilege if you are a Realtor)
9. Explore more hike and bike trails at least 10 in New England.
10. Reconnect with at least 7 of the people who we always say "let's get together", but time and life get in our way and it just never happens.
I'm so grateful my lovely sad lioness called me yesterday.
She reminds me, to be grateful. She reminds me, that my shoulder is still open for business if you need to cry on it...
But mostly she reminded me of what's important. Friends!